10 years of un-narcissing!

Hi Janta!

I love starting with a disclaimer! ;) Here's for this post. Thought through a bit before attempting this post. I kind of worry, it could sound narcissistic somewhere. But, the real intent here is to talk the right opposite of narcissism! Do be merciful to give me the benefit of doubt :P


Looking at the current viral 10 Year Challenge trend, there sure have been some transformations that have blew our minds. But, all said and done, most of them have been all about physical aspects such as better body, looks, etc. No, not discounting their efforts and hardwork one bit here. Some of them are inspiring. But can this 10 year challenge, which has taken the world's youth captive, march ahead for something more constructive for our world? Well, i can only transform myself, and not expect others to follow what i like!

I will digress now. Let me flaunt about myself man.

I saw another famous meme, this time to do with one's heart! It showed how one's live pumping heart has simply transformed into a stone over the last 10 years. I thought it was a funny meme, at first. Simply because, 10 years before, i always knew my heart was ALREADY made of stone. But, as and when this meme started appearing across a number of friends' profiles, social media newsfeed, etc, i started to think a bit more about it. Yes, the world certainly looks to have got a colder heart. Or, a harder (definitely not stronger) heart!

A couple of days later. A tear dropped by my eye. It was a mere video. An animal was rescued from an excruciating pain. I wondered, "do i even have an heart? but why am i bidding a tear for this!"

During my schooling and college days, i was a stone-heart-ed man! I always prided myself being cold-hearted, i still remember!  And now..

What has made me sensitive? Why was i even emoting?

Where are the days i used to laugh or mock at my so-called petty sadness that my friends had?

Where was the "****-u dude, i dont care" attitude? (oh crumbs! i am not even able to type the word out now!) What happened to me over the last decade?

No man, i am not putting any hype! All i am saying is, i practically saw a stone (my heart) melt or cut down to a bit of life by mere drops of Love. Mind you, with consistency.

The transformation probably roots somewhere about 10 years back when i was pulled into a world of fantasy. Something magical. And actually, inexplicable. But i attempt to explain it here in 2 lines.

My Guru, and Who i know is God Incarnate, is the Sole Reason. Well this is getting boring? Truth be said, it was He Who with His patient drop by drop water (of love) treatment started healing my stone-heart! Getting me to get to do some social service, accepting my mistakes, bearing with my arrogance and pride filled attitude! And, not judging my past! This LOVE is what has transformed me! And i intend to do the same to all around me.

I used to wonder over the last few years as to why some of my friends and circle are probably moving towards a more formal or colder way of life. As in, it has become an acceptable norm now. On the other hand, after 20+ years of my life, i have finally started to breathe through my heart. 

I realised that only when we have a heart, can we understand the stone-heartedness elsewhere! Thus, 10 years back, when i was stone hearted, i never realised then but now i see it.

So for all those, who put the stone heart meme, it simply helps me understand you guys are filled with Love, congrats folks, be yourselves, always! 

But, for the other yet-to-be-transformed stone hearted guys (like i was one), and especially for those who accuse the transformed, the loving, the humble, the goodhearted and the non-egoistic ones as 'being submissive and without a spine', i have the following to say:

"it wont take me a minute to flaunt about myself and have air all over about myself! this being-simple attitude has come with a lot of difficulty and due to great Fortune! If you don't value my humility and take it to be mere submissiveness or an act of spinelessness, i don't need you guys in my life! If you don't value the Love that is permeating in all of us, let us meet only after you develop the eyes for valuing it!"

So, here is my challenge! Take a 10 year challenge and build a bigger, stronger, and livelier heart as well !

Naanum 'rowdy' aa irunthavan thaan da!
btw, please remember the disclaimer! ;) 

Why we would do good to ourselves by not emulating Singapore!

We all have great aspirations about our country's development. All of us would have some or the other time felt that India must follow a Singapore (if not a US style) type of development.

Recently I had been to Singapore for a few days, and I ensured to travel the length of the city using their public transportation, mainly the MRT. There is no question about the development of the place. Fantastic infrastructure, great roads, streamlined traffic, superb hotels and shopping spots, and what not! Well, what i loved the most was the degree of the cosmopolitanism imbibed in the place!

Well, i guess i have digressed a bit already!

I took some time to talk to some cab drivers, a few locals, etc. throughout the few days that i traveled across Singapore. What i got to know was there was a big 'entry barrier' (if i may so) to owning a car to owning a property and so on. Basically, for all the so-called luxuries you would ideally look for, you have an entry barrier. Besides, we all have heard of Singapore having gone through the exercise of demonetisation. And im sure we hate all this! :)

Basically, what i am coming to is - I, being an Indian citizen have taken the conscious decision of staying back in India solely for the amount of flexibility and freedom this country offers in whatever we want to own/do. We do not have strong barriers to almost anything here in India.

Ya man, i don't see any point seeing our country develop to the level of a Singapore and in turn have my hands tied! We are a Nation where we have our own standards of discipline and lifestyle. Thus, i understood, we are in an amazing country, where we live our lives to the fullest, albeit with some problems here and there!

Or may i go one step ahead and say, physical development of the country is no great development. People's happiness alone is! And i am sure we Indians are a happy lot.

Let's stop cribbing about our Nation and remember to recall the larger benefits our country offers whenever we feel our country is highly developed!

my 6 year blog challenge? An analytical study ;)

Hi Folks,

I have probably now put myself into a 6 year challenge, in the likes of the 10Year Challenge that's going viral across social platforms. 10 years back i had started to blog and was kind of regular till 2012 end.

And lo, the next 6 years was like - silencee!

Well, firstly, i never realized it was such a huge gap! Did the years literally run by?

Being a partially analytical minded guy, i started to introspect if my non-blogging period had any correlation to my life-style in these 6 years. And here we go!

Technical v non-technical career? Naah!
Hmm.. i was in a coding job and was simultaneously preparing for my CAT. So it doesn't really fit in, for i should have had lesser time for blogging, but i ended up blogging more then! Besides, I had all the more reasons to blog during my MBA to express opinions, better my language, etc. but i never really blogged then.

Facebook time? Hmm not really!

My FB activity too went down since 2012-ish and it has come down to a zero now. Let's keep aside the occasional DP changes, etc. 

MBA? Ya right!?

I hardly studied, man. Was into a number of activities in the college that did eat my time, but i sure should have found 30 mins in a week?!

Whatsapp? My buddy!
Yeaah!! Let me conveniently blame this guy now. I got caught into the WhatsApp net about the mind 2012 period, and since then my whatsapp-ing activity grew up substantially while my blogging went down quickly to a ZERO!

Well, what's up with whatsapp? It's simple.

1. Whatsapp gives us the much needed communication at a peer level with a lot of features that help you feel safe with your privacy. You have the groups to express your thoughts, jokes, etc. You have the status updates to show your, albeit not great, creativity. So, all in one :)

2. I can remain non-committal, which is the most craved drink for today's youth. I can act like nothing happened by just deleting a message, or by using various other features. A blog doesn't allow me to customize a message or its audience in a variety of ways, as a WhatsApp can do.

3. In case of a blog, there is all chances of a public access and you may have to be far more formal with your language. WhatsApp on the contrary hates formal language!  It's all about smileys to convey your happiness and your satire!

4. My favourite theorem - Metcalfe's law!
More the folks in your contact, more the involvement! We can derive using Metcalfe's law that your involvement is said to be proportional to the square of the number of contacts in your group/contact list!


So yes, im not surprised that my blogging has gone down.

Ok, then what brought me back to this today? Hmm.. give me some time to analyze this! ;)